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Thread: How to be royally f*cked over in just 28 days!

  1. #61

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    With all due respect, Zenith, the time for asking politely has long since passed..

  2. #62

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    You don't need the landlords permission to change the locks, just do it.

  3. #63

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    Quote Originally Posted by Butterwick Blue View Post
    With all due respect, Zenith, the time for asking politely has long since passed..
    Believe me, after that I demanded them and she didn't like it and got obviously even more defensive. Just wondering why the **** she is making this last for so much longer than it needed to.

  4. #64

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    Quote Originally Posted by Blooburd View Post
    You are a idiot for assuming everybody and every circumstance is the same. With that attitude I'm sure you are a barrel of laughs to be around!

    You say you got over her yet you are on here hanging out your dirty laundry. Get over it.

    What are you, 13?

  5. #65

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zenith View Post
    She's turned into a ****ing menace mate. I said to her yesterday come at 9am Wednesday, she said I can't now I have been asked to work, I said ok then. Then she said me and my parents will come around to the house Wednesday evening at 7:30pm, I work at home so I am not happy but accepted because I just want her ****ing out of here. Then she slips up and says she's catching a train back to Cardiff at 10am... I said I thought you were working that's why you couldn't come? She says I never said that. I said you did point blank on the phone, then I realised she had also text me saying that as well.

    Just such a massive bullshitter, why lie? Just makes it so much more difficult and now refusing to hand the keys over is beyond. Why would she want to come back?
    Perhaps she is having second thoughts but seriously do not go back into a relationship. She sounds highly manipulative. Whatever your feelings towards her you will never be able to trust her again. It took me two years to properly get over my wife walking out. I have been with my partner for over 21 years now and have felt for many years that my wife did me a favour when she left.

    You will find someone better than this who you will be with long term. It will happen. Just don't sell yourself short with your ex.

  6. #66

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    Z, you are still looking for sense and answers, probably because you crave them, and/or because you feel that you deserve better than what you are getting.
    Understandable - maybe, but all you are getting is nonsense, bollocks , lies and hurt.
    The cat is way too far out of the bag. Time to be very firm and very cool headed.

  7. #67

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    ****ing hell zenith you've been taken for a right mug get your shit together get on tinder and start shagging ffs

  8. #68

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    Quote Originally Posted by City123 View Post

  9. #69

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    Quote Originally Posted by Colonel Cærdiffi View Post
    You don't need the landlords permission to change the locks, just do it.

    I think you'll find you do.

  10. #70

    Re: How to be royally f*cked over in just 28 days!

    Not very nice, perhaps it's not what you want to hear, time heals, you will move on, go and treat yourself, new axe, new car or something to get your mind away from it all.

  11. #71

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nelsonca61 View Post
    Not very nice, perhaps it's not what you want to hear, time heals, you will move on, go and treat yourself, new axe, new car or something to get your mind away from it all.

    new axe,

  12. #72

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    Quote Originally Posted by BLUETIT View Post
    new axe,
    I believe that Zenith is a guitar(axe) player !!!!

  13. #73

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    Quote Originally Posted by Nelsonca61 View Post
    I believe that Zenith is a guitar(axe) player !!!!

  14. #74

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zenith View Post
    Believe me, after that I demanded them and she didn't like it and got obviously even more defensive. Just wondering why the **** she is making this last for so much longer than it needed to.
    Ok time for some truth young man.

    She's doing it because she can. Probably because she's a manipulative bitch.

    Text her, give her one final chance to get her shit out of YOUR house. Give her a date and time and tell her that anything she doesn't collect at that point will be donated to the charity shop. Be there when she comes so you can make sure she doesn't take anything that's not hers but don't waste your breath on her. Tell her you have no interest in anything she has to say from now on and ask her to delete your number.

    As soon as she's got her stuff, delete her from your life completely - phone, Facebook and anything else. If she texts or rings you, ignore her. Just get on with your life and start looking after number one. Don't waste your time trying to analyse why she did what she did - some people are arseholes and the best thing you can do is just leave her where she is.

    It'll hurt for a bit but once she gets out of your head you'll be surprised how quickly you'll forget her. One day you'll look back and realise you had a lucky escape.

  15. #75

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dr Lecter View Post
    Ok time for some truth young man.

    She's doing it because she can. Probably because she's a manipulative bitch.

    Text her, give her one final chance to get her shit out of YOUR house. Give her a date and time and tell her that anything she doesn't collect at that point will be donated to the charity shop. Be there when she comes so you can make sure she doesn't take anything that's not hers but don't waste your breath on her. Tell her you have no interest in anything she has to say from now on and ask her to delete your number.

    As soon as she's got her stuff, delete her from your life completely - phone, Facebook and anything else. If she texts or rings you, ignore her. Just get on with your life and start looking after number one. Don't waste your time trying to analyse why she did what she did - some people are arseholes and the best thing you can do is just leave her where she is.

    It'll hurt for a bit but once she gets out of your head you'll be surprised how quickly you'll forget her. One day you'll look back and realise you had a lucky escape.


    Already happening pal, hopefully all will be sorted by Thursday morning and I can come on here with a big smile on my face. I have been stern and can't wait to get rid of her from my life.

  16. #76

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zenith View Post
    I asked her politely this evening to leave her keys at the house when it's done. She refused even though she has stopped paying any contribution to the house.

    Gonna have to get the landlord involved asap, but he's on holiday for the next week.
    Is her name on the lease?

  17. #77

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    Quote Originally Posted by NYCBlue View Post
    Is her name on the lease?
    Sadly, but if I can get us all to agree to get her off of the agreement with the Landlord hopefully he will tear it up and start a new one. He is a great landlord to be fair and I let him know the situation last week, very understanding. Unfortunately it can't be resolved right now because he is on holiday.

  18. #78

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    Quote Originally Posted by Dr Lecter View Post
    Ok time for some truth young man.

    She's doing it because she can. Probably because she's a manipulative bitch.

    Text her, give her one final chance to get her shit out of YOUR house. Give her a date and time and tell her that anything she doesn't collect at that point will be donated to the charity shop. Be there when she comes so you can make sure she doesn't take anything that's not hers but don't waste your breath on her. Tell her you have no interest in anything she has to say from now on and ask her to delete your number.

    As soon as she's got her stuff, delete her from your life completely - phone, Facebook and anything else. If she texts or rings you, ignore her. Just get on with your life and start looking after number one. Don't waste your time trying to analyse why she did what she did - some people are arseholes and the best thing you can do is just leave her where she is.

    It'll hurt for a bit but once she gets out of your head you'll be surprised how quickly you'll forget her. One day you'll look back and realise you had a lucky escape.
    I'd add to this: make sure someone is with you when she comes over. If one of your mates is there, she loses all her power. She won't be able to flirt or tug at the heart strings. Keep it business from now on.

  19. #79

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    Quote Originally Posted by BLUETIT View Post
    new axe,
    Quote Originally Posted by Nelsonca61 View Post
    I believe that Zenith is a guitar(axe) player !!!!

    He also rides a bike, but you never said buy a chopper

  20. #80

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    So update is she came with her parents last night to move all of the things. Pretty much every single thing is gone now so I am glad about that. I brought it up to her mother about not being happy this situation has been prolonged by her and not me, which is when she said "why did you threaten to put her things outside?" I said because she is sleeping with some other guy and I am obviously not happy she is willing to do that whilst she has led me on and all her shit is in the house. Of course the mother backed up for her and said she cleaned the house last week, I just laughed and said yeah that's great.

    Bad thing is she came today for what I was hoping to be the final time I see her for a while to sort out the bills. As soon as they were done, I gave her the opportunity to clear herself of guilt and admit she had lied about loads of issues over the last few weeks. She didn't so I gave some proof and she still didn't so that's up to her and achieved nothing apart from it showed I cannot trust her for shit, who knows she might try and steal whilst she still has access.

    I asked for the keys and she refused until she gets her half of the deposit back, which I suppose is fair but I said as soon as I can give you the money I will and we won't have to see each other in a few weeks but she didn't like that at all. So all in all, I'm going to sadly have to see her again at some point in the next month but I'm hoping she is willing to post her keys through the door and be done with it. I thought she wouldn't be so ****ing awkward, but nothing surprises me from here on.

  21. #81

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zenith View Post
    So update is she came with her parents last night to move all of the things. Pretty much every single thing is gone now so I am glad about that. I brought it up to her mother about not being happy this situation has been prolonged by her and not me, which is when she said "why did you threaten to put her things outside?" I said because she is sleeping with some other guy and I am obviously not happy she is willing to do that whilst she has led me on and all her shit is in the house. Of course the mother backed up for her and said she cleaned the house last week, I just laughed and said yeah that's great.

    Bad thing is she came today for what I was hoping to be the final time I see her for a while to sort out the bills. As soon as they were done, I gave her the opportunity to clear herself of guilt and admit she had lied about loads of issues over the last few weeks. She didn't so I gave some proof and she still didn't so that's up to her and achieved nothing apart from it showed I cannot trust her for shit, who knows she might try and steal whilst she still has access.

    I asked for the keys and she refused until she gets her half of the deposit back, which I suppose is fair but I said as soon as I can give you the money I will and we won't have to see each other in a few weeks but she didn't like that at all. So all in all, I'm going to sadly have to see her again at some point in the next month but I'm hoping she is willing to post her keys through the door and be done with it. I thought she wouldn't be so ****ing awkward, but nothing surprises me from here on.
    A couple of things:

    No point talking to the mother - she's obviously going to take her daughters side. Don't waste your breath in future.

    No point trying to get your ex to admit stuff she's done. All it does is show her that you still give a shit. Even if you do still care, don't let her know that. The best thing you can do is show her that your glad she's gone. The reality is you know she's been a lying cheat so you don't need proof.

    As for the keys and deposits situation, is there anyone you can lend the money from? If so, tell her you'll give her the half of the deposit in exchange for the keys - no keys, no money. The sooner you get this sorted then the sooner you can be shot of her. If you can't get the money then hopefully you can speak to your landlord and get her off the lease, change the locks etc. Failing that tell her that if she enters your property without your permission then she won't get her money at all.

    Chin up young man. Hopefully the situation will get sorted soon. In the meantime the best thing you can do is get on with your life and ignore your ex - the only time you need to speak to her again is to give her half the deposit and get your keys back.

    Edit: one more thing - if there's anything else of hers still there (no matter how small) then dump it in the bin right now. She's had her chance to get her shit. Don't give her any reason or excuse to come round again.
    Last edited by Dr Lecter; 14-09-17 at 09:47. Reason: Hadn't finished ranting

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    Re: How to be royally f*cked over in just 28 days!

    What's stopping her getting another set of keys cut???

    Talk to the landlord first, but get the damned locks changed.

    He might even give you your deposit back, you give her half, then take out another lease of your own

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    Quote Originally Posted by TH63 View Post
    What's stopping her getting another set of keys cut???

    Talk to the landlord first, but get the damned locks changed.

    He might even give you your deposit back, you give her half, then take out another lease of your own
    All I'm going to do is wait until the landlord is back, as soon as he is I will get all of this sorted.

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    Re: How to be royally f*cked over in just 28 days!

    Quote Originally Posted by Zenith View Post
    All I'm going to do is wait until the landlord is back, as soon as he is I will get all of this sorted.

  26. #86

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    Quote Originally Posted by Zenith View Post
    So update is she came with her parents last night to move all of the things. Pretty much every single thing is gone now so I am glad about that. I brought it up to her mother about not being happy this situation has been prolonged by her and not me, which is when she said "why did you threaten to put her things outside?" I said because she is sleeping with some other guy and I am obviously not happy she is willing to do that whilst she has led me on and all her shit is in the house. Of course the mother backed up for her and said she cleaned the house last week, I just laughed and said yeah that's great.

    Bad thing is she came today for what I was hoping to be the final time I see her for a while to sort out the bills. As soon as they were done, I gave her the opportunity to clear herself of guilt and admit she had lied about loads of issues over the last few weeks. She didn't so I gave some proof and she still didn't so that's up to her and achieved nothing apart from it showed I cannot trust her for shit, who knows she might try and steal whilst she still has access.

    I asked for the keys and she refused until she gets her half of the deposit back, which I suppose is fair but I said as soon as I can give you the money I will and we won't have to see each other in a few weeks but she didn't like that at all. So all in all, I'm going to sadly have to see her again at some point in the next month but I'm hoping she is willing to post her keys through the door and be done with it. I thought she wouldn't be so ****ing awkward, but nothing surprises me from here on.
    So when are you two getting married then?

  27. #87

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    Got any saucy snaps you would like to share with us ?

    Curious to see this bunny boiler

  28. #88

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    Quote Originally Posted by Rocco Siffredi View Post
    Got any saucy snaps you would like to share with us ?

    Curious to see this bunny boiler
    All over that strange place for very needy people facecloth by all accounts

  29. #89

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    Of course you need permission to change the locks

    BUT

    if its a Yale type lock, you can easily change the barrel of the lock ( just keep the old one safe, as you could change it back when you move out )
    less than a 10'er and 15 mins work

  30. #90

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    Quote Originally Posted by blue matt View Post
    if its a Yale type lock, you can easily change the barrel of the lock ( just keep the old one safe, as you could change it back when you move out ) less than a 10'er and 15 mins work
    Any tips on how to stop a new metal garden shed leaking?

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