I've no idea how these things are decided but everyone seemed to know who was taking the second one. When Etete gets brought down he's still on his backside looking at the ref while Robinson is sprinting over from the left wing to pick up the ball, which had rolled over the byline. Robinson marches to the spot with it while Wintle goes straight to Etete (presumably to congratulate him) and then walks away. There doesn't seem to be any confusion among the City players about whose penalty it was.
Seems a bit harsh to criticise Etete without knowing all the details. How do we know if he doesn't fancy it or if he wants to take one but is getting overruled behind the scenes? It's a sorry sight when players are wrestling for the ball before a penalty, I'd like to think City have got this side of things sorted. Even if the actual taking of them is still a work in progress.
I take your wider point about strikers and penalties when it comes to a shoot-out but I think it's a bit more complex than that during a game. Here's a list of the six who got to a hundred Premier League goals without scoring a penalty, probably a different reason for each of them.
https://thefootballfaithful.com/appr...ing-a-penalty/
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