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    Re: A relative’s love life dilemma: What would you advise?

    Quote Originally Posted by North Cardiff Blue View Post
    Terrible, but of course we've only heard one side of the story, it is true you gift to your kids at your peril the next bird/bloke could easily end up with half or all of it.
    You can set up trusts for that. I have covered that one. Clever ways of nailing that if you ask the right questions 👍 Nugget hunters can be cut out if capital-hunting off someone else’s back

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    Re: A relative’s love life dilemma: What would you advise?

    Quote Originally Posted by North Cardiff Blue View Post
    Terrible, but of course we've only heard one side of the story, it is true you gift to your kids at your peril the next bird/bloke could easily end up with half or all of it.
    I have helped family to avoid those and it worked. I am not a solicitor or anything, but just by getting a
    good one and saying “I want my will protected from this person, that situation, this attempt etc.”

    I had two people in my family by nugget hunters marrying in to the family. In a third situation I recovered a loss post-will. Now three other family
    members sat down with me and I helped them bullet proof their wills just by posing many possible scenarios to them and asking what would they want to happen in that situation, and their lawyer did it.

    It needs thought though, because nugget-hunters are like rats. They will find the gaps in the wall and fight like hell. And when a family members with money die, people’s behaviours can (and will) change, and you see a side of them they always kept concealed. Amazing how many “nice people” turn into Darth Vader when a free money-grab is available.

    Post death situations in family, and divorces, where
    money is involved brings out all sorts of hyenas and rats. It’s amazing to watch, and sad / pitiful for the people mugged off. You have to be savvy, streetwise and cynical in those situations for sure.

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    Re: A relative’s love life dilemma: What would you advise?

    Quote Originally Posted by Keyser Soze View Post
    I agree, mein chum. With house prices Al Whacko, nugget hunting has become a thing.

    In this situation the lady left the ex-pork and she had only been with him two years. Yes he owned the bricks and mortar, and after two years she did have the “common law wife” nonsense situation, so she could have pulled the trigger. But honourably, she didn’t. Either she wasn’t aware of the law or she did the honourable thing and just left. So no track record to suggest she is a nugget-hunter, just yet. Not is she a big spender / credit card junkie, so she doesn’t seem to be nugget-focused.

    She has been with cousin for four years, and lived with him for three. Technically again, she is common law wife and has rights to claim. So no kids yet, but he is vulnerable to common law claims. If she is aware, then in her mid Thirties she might pull the trigger this time. He has been in the house about ten years so he has made a fair bit of equity. I think it might get messy so I said he needs to strip his cash accounts and ISAs and put in parents accountsout of caution. Even consider re-mortgaging, strip out the equity and place it in a hiding place to protect himself. But he acts like Mother Theresa and because he is a nice guy he thinks others are. He can be a mug sometimes.

    I advised him long ago to decide after two years if he is serious or recycle her to someone else. He doesn’t want kids (she does), and that rings alarm bells to me if anything. I said if all he wants is nookie-on-tap he should take my mate’s advice and just take a financial attitude to women by adopting a “portfolio approach”. Have 2-4 on the go. Nobody moves in - protect yourself from “common law wife exposure”. You also protect yourself from “withdrawing / dwindling sex risk” because if one of them withdraws the frequency of fish pie you just swap her out for another one. And if one calls it off, you have another 2-3 in play so you never go without. That would suit him. A bit Andrew Tate, but works for my mate. He gets nookie all the time and on his terms. All the control.

    Anyway the nugget-losses aren’t cousin’s main concern. It’s the ex-pork assessment he is struggling with. Women are more likely to have male friends than men have women friends, I note. No problem for me, but it is where the women hang out with ex-pork that draws my concern. If ex-pork is texting she might be doing the decent thing and ignoring. But if she is responding, or is out with ex-pork, I would say cut your losses and cut the cord immediately with no further questions asked. I cut all ties with former fish pies out of respect for other half.

    But currently there is no evidence of cousin’s filth responding to the ex-pork, nor even visiting him, so is there a real reason for concern, other than the difference over wanting nippers?
    And they say romance is dead...

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    Re: A relative’s love life dilemma: What would you advise?

    "Women are more likely to have male friends than men have women friends"

    Isn't this going to pretty much even out?

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    Re: A relative’s love life dilemma: What would you advise?

    Quote Originally Posted by lardy View Post
    "Women are more likely to have male friends than men have women friends"

    Isn't this going to pretty much even out?
    Have you seen the numbers of single males that don't interact with females?

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    Re: A relative’s love life dilemma: What would you advise?

    He can have my wife while I build my Ultimate team.

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    Re: A relative’s love life dilemma: What would you advise?

    Quote Originally Posted by B. Oddie View Post
    He can have my wife while I build my Ultimate team.
    I miss my ps4

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    Re: A relative’s love life dilemma: What would you advise?

    Quote Originally Posted by Tuerto View Post
    I know that i digress, although a thread on what we have all learnt about life as we have aged would be interesting. Think of all of that time spent worrying over shit that never happened. That's one for a start. Anyway, back on topic
    100% “A Life’s Lessons - What would you share to youngsters” thread. That’s a great call. Don’t think I have ever seen one

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    Re: A relative’s love life dilemma: What would you advise?

    Quote Originally Posted by Keyser Soze View Post
    100% “A Life’s Lessons - What would you share to youngsters” thread. That’s a great call. Don’t think I have ever seen one
    I've done one like that, and what would you change in your life if you had a time machine, something like that anyway.

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    Re: A relative’s love life dilemma: What would you advise?

    Quote Originally Posted by rich munn View Post
    I entirely agree.

    Callous and casual misogynism, by a WUM who thinks he is much more articulate than he is.

    The language he uses is deliberately inflammatory.

    I am disappointed that intelligent posters like TBG and one or two others have responded to him.

    He's an attention-seeking nuisance.

    The story he tells is nothing but a lie. But why should it be on a football meassageboard?

    Get a grip, moderators. If there are any.
    It's bollocks and we all know it is.

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