I used to love it when my ppponent started moaning about me being over physical with him.
You know you were half way there already then.

And when I came up against someone who was the same/ worse I just kept my mouth shut and continued the battle until I worked out a way to deal with it, or in some cases until the ref blew up and put me out of my misery 😂

Whinging is the worst thing you can do and beside anything else it's unedifying - especially coming from the manager