Originally Posted by
Gofer Blue
Well, firstly I am a fully paid up member of Dignity in Dying and have been for some time before it became very popular following the entrance of Esther Rantzen into the debate.
Much is made of palliative care for the dying and this can be very good. However it is a post code lottery situation and not everyone has access to it. Also it is almost unbelievable that this sector relies heavily on charity to carry out its work. Even when it is available, not everyone has good pain control and can suffer greatly towards the end of life.
IMO it is very easy for some people to take an "ivory tower" or moral highground approach to this subject. It is very different if you have a loved one who is terminally ill and is howling in pain and is begging you to end his/her life.
Moreover, and this is obviously highly controversial, I think assisted dying should be extended to include those who are suffering from a long term degenerative condition such as MS, MND or Parkinsons and have no wish to continue to live, or should I say rather just exist, under such conditions. I stress that this in no way should be taken to mean I am suggesting the euthanasia of that person - the person concerned must be compos mentis and should be able to record their wishes both in writing and orally.
I have relatively recently come to this conclusion as a result of regularly visiting a friend who is suffering from Parkinsons and has done for over 3 years. It is very degrading for him (I won't go into details about bodily functions etc.) and so far he is fully aware of his condition and has frequently said to me that he doesn't want to "go on". It is taking a terrible toll on his wife who is racked with guilt because she is no longer able to take care of him at home and he is in a nursing home surrounded by folk who are mostly ga-ga. It is a mere existence, not a life.
I have some Christian friends that are horrified by my stance and others who agree with me. There is nothing in the Bible about assisted dying, so if ever I had to make that choice for myself I would do it, and throw myself at the mercy of God. Dignity in Dying produce a template which can be used to record your instructions and I am in the process of reading through the info before writing down my own wishes.
I think it is important to discuss this matter with close family in advance so they know where you are coming from. In my case I am a pretty healthy 77 year old at the moment but I am only too aware that I am at the age where anything could happen at any time. In my experience 80 seems to be a turning point for many people, when the quality of life starts to take a sharp downturn.