lets be honest, most love to abuse / criticise the ref if we feel they make a mistake,
Ive ref'ed my U 13 girls team friendlies and the abuse you get from parents and the other coaches is just laughable, but saying that, its crept so far into the game that players think they can do it ( i havent had a player criticise me, i did have our captain ( who is also my daughter ) ask if she could have a word and asked why i didnt give a pen for a handball, truthfully i didnt see it, though my other coach said i missed it aswell, so it looks like my daughter was right ) we have taught our girls if they have a issue, speak to the captain and then the captain goes to ask to speak to the ref ( in a break in play ) this serves 2 purposes, teaches them not to crowd the ref and pressure / abuse him / her ( its respectful ) and lt lets the ref know that thy are keeping a eye on him / her
we have a few girl ref's in our league ( makes sense as its a girls league ) and ive been told to zip it a few times, thankfully a few of them know me now, i always apologise that when i watch a game i might shout" ref - handball " or " come on ref, that was a foul " etc etc, i did it as a player, as a fan and now as a coach, its easy to lose yourself in a game and forget you are not a supporter and it is just that, i get so engrossed in the game, i forget Im the coach
As a coach ive had another coach come and square upto me, i told him to wait in the car park till all the girls had gone and we will discuss it, i went to pack up the goals and he dragged a dad over aswell and they both started mouthing on at me, i told them both " i said we can sort this f-ing out after the girls have gone, wait in the car park " , i finished packing away and made my way to the car park, they drove away. we have to have a time and a place to do that crap, not infront of the girls
We have also had a 2 dads come over and get angry that we had packed our defence with 3 CB's and a RB / LB in the 2nd 1/2, it was 7 V 7 at the time, we sat back played 1 up top and wanted to stop this team from scoring too many against us in the 2nd 1/2, as it happens we hit them on the break and won 1 - 0 , 2 of the dads were livid that we had played like we did and stopped this team winning the league that day, they even had medals to hand out at the end of the game as they expected to beat us ( the sheer arrogance of them, even the other teams players told ours they were going to win the league today as they warmed up )
they were very angry and wanted a fight, i must admit, i didnt help the situation when i shouted to them, hope them medals dont rust
Originally Posted by blue matt
lets be honest, most love to abuse / criticise the ref if we feel they make a mistake,
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infact its positively good
