Sorry but how can you "reclaim" a word? Whatever next, different versions of the dictionary to accomodate minoritys?
Its either a word we can all use without causing offence, or it shouldnt be used by anyone.
And whilst we are on the subject why is "****'s" deemed to be so offensive? No different to calling us Welshies or Taffies? Plus its quicker to say than Pakistanis.