Quote Originally Posted by BLUETIT View Post
The original post states “can anyone offer some advice” !!!!!!!

Most of us, are reading that and offering what we see is the best advice, in these circumstances.

If we’re wrong, we’re ALL wrong, but with the best intentions of the OP in mind.
Alright, and since the OP is not himself the feuding party, my friendly advice would be to continue with what he is doing, and maybe even try to be the peacemaker. At the end of the day it's rediculous to allow feuds to overshadow significant family events, and somebody needs to be the adult in the room and bring people to their senses. Speaking for myself, just giving up without trying to find a solution would not be an option for me, but I'm sure the OP has his own views about how best to proceed.