Funeral arrangements - help needed

[Wales-Bales]

Nobody is “telling” him or his wife not to go.
It’s just friendly advice.

Friendly advice that wasn't asked for. For the record, I have seen my sister's wedding ruined due to a family feud that resulted in her dad not being allowed to attend (they never spoke again after that), and I have also buried the hatchet at a funeral when everybody was united in grief. It's a double-edged sword, and in this case we are lacking the facts of the matter, so best to keep our noses out of it IMO. If the OP wanted advice about attending, I'm sure he would have asked for it.

[Vindec]

Friendly advice that wasn't asked for. For the record, I have seen my sister's wedding ruined due to a family feud that resulted in her dad not being allowed to attend (they never spoke again after that), and I have also buried the hatchet at a funeral when everybody was united in grief. It's a double-edged sword, and in this case we are lacking the facts of the matter, so best to keep our noses out of it IMO. If the OP wanted advice about attending, I'm sure he would have asked for it.

You might well have a valid point but let's see what the original poster thinks. All advice on this thread has been offered in good faith and the original poster is free to ignore it if he so desires.