Nursery Advice.

[Charlie]

Its a hard one, they are happy to have him in the nursery, but now don't want to collect him, i cant really leave work, go to where i live pick him up from school drop him off at nursery to then go back to work. To just now to refuse to collect him means we will have to find elsewhere, its a nightmare really.

Looking from the outside I can understand their position. If they are collecting a bunch of kids at the same time, one child who causes a problem and has a tantrum takes their attention away from others and has the potential to put other children in their charge in danger.
Please don't think I'm having a pop at your child and obviously that's no help to you but I assume that's the reason.
I know when mine were that age quite a few parents used paid nannies to just do pick ups and drop offs, no idea how financially viable that is for you, but maybe being picked up as a group is part of the problem.

[qccfc]

Looking from the outside I can understand their position. If they are collecting a bunch of kids at the same time, one child who causes a problem and has a tantrum takes their attention away from others and has the potential to put other children in their charge in danger.
Please don't think I'm having a pop at your child and obviously that's no help to you but I assume that's the reason.
I know when mine were that age quite a few parents used paid nannies to just do pick ups and drop offs, no idea how financially viable that is for you, but maybe being picked up as a group is part of the problem.

No i fully understand that viewpoint. I know that the situation is not acceptable, and you need to have control at this point. However its disappointing the lack of being able to work at something. I dont think any parent can guarantee that their child would be perfectly well behaved, at every pick-up over a 6 month period.

[blue matt]

No i fully understand that viewpoint. I know that the situation is not acceptable, and you need to have control at this point. However its disappointing the lack of being able to work at something. I dont think any parent can guarantee that their child would be perfectly well behaved, at every pick-up over a 6 month period.

this is the issue with " paid for private childcare " they will not bother to work with children to try and help with issues, as most of the time they can just take on another child who doesnt require hard work

[Charlie]

There is a really expensive private nursery on the same road as my kids old junior school, even if we had needed to use it we couldn't have afforded it. But the staff they use are little more than kids themselves, straight from school and into childcare work, they haven't got the experience or knowledge yet in how to deal with a child who is causing problems and needing more attention so its easier to exclude than to work through the problem to everyone's satisfaction. As Matt says, there will always be another child on the waiting list to take on.

[Since64]

There is a really expensive private nursery on the same road as my kids old junior school, even if we had needed to use it we couldn't have afforded it. But the staff they use are little more than kids themselves, straight from school and into childcare work, they haven't got the experience or knowledge yet in how to deal with a child who is causing problems and needing more attention so its easier to exclude than to work through the problem to everyone's satisfaction. As Matt says, there will always be another child on the waiting list to take on.

Truer words have never been spoken,my wife started in childcare in 76 were she did a two year college course and a one day a week training at a local school,then a further one year child psychology course before getting a job at her local village school were she stayed for the next thirty eight years until her retirement,her job title during the first thirty five years was Nursery Nurse then out of the blue her title was downgraded to teachers aid,were you can know do the training online there is little or no training given to the kids coming into the job and most schools use them as nothing more than goffas