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You have had a lot of stuff to deal with fair playQuote:
Originally Posted by rs3100
The mens shed movement is popular , CALM have a forum I think but if they don't they should be able to put you in touch with one .
As for your group zoom thats a fantastic idea
Not got much to add to this conversation, but I agree about music - my mood NEVER gets worse when I switch on one of my p,laylists and often gets better.Quote:
Originally Posted by life on mars
Also agree about walking, but having gout return for the first time in more than twenty years in the last month has made that difficult lately.
Financially and physically I've nothing at all to feel depressed about, however the relentless, never-ending diet of gloom, threats, warnings, instructions, restrictions, statistics, all start to weigh heavily on you, even if you are able to 'work around them'. What I will say is a lot of posts on this thread about depression, organizations that can help, which is fine, but there's a big difference between being low and depressed at times, and actually suffering from something that you need to seek help for. Many a day the Mrs and I have spells where we feel genuinely down, anxious about 'nothing', etc., but - as others have said - being outdoors especially, is a wonderful medicine. Maybe if you live in Cardiff and want to go for a walk over Barry Island you should do it - the adrenaline rush of not knowing if a prat in a high viz jacket is going to question you, may do you the world of good..
Very true , fresh air , healthy eating , sleep, walks are greatQuote:
Originally Posted by A Quiet Monkfish
But depression and anxiety as illnesses need to be treated by doctors with medication if suggested . For those who suffer repeated episodes a referral to a psychiatrist might be needed as they are the experts in this field .
The self help and phonelines are useful but if depression is a long term problem in your life you need expert help , starting with your gp .
Take care everyone , if I can point someone in the right direction I will
Bluebirds ! Bluebirds !
First time I've posted on here for ages..
The lockdown has been absolutely horrendous for me. I've found myself googling things, I really never thought I would.
The working from home has been the killer, but the general lack of socialising, feeling unhappy, loss of nearly every enjoyment I have (football, pub, gigs, meeting friends etc), the way society is fragmenting, the anger, bitterness etc..its so depressing.
Horrible time, by far the worst period of my life.
So sorry to hear my friend. Please reach out on here should you ever feel the need.Quote:
Originally Posted by JamesWales
What I have found that helps break the general fog of Coronavirus bad news, is to regularly do a gratitude list. Just reminds us of all the good things in our lives that we really do take for granted.
secondedQuote:
Originally Posted by UNDERHILL1927
Can you find other ways to socialise mate? Go for a walk with your friends rather than to a gig for example. Also it's important to remember, especially for those who've struggled with their mental health during lockdown, that we're not in a lockdown right now - we're under restrictions and there's a world of difference. You can see your mates for a beer, you can go out for a meal, go to the cinema.Quote:
Originally Posted by JamesWales
Don't sit at home reading bad news about society fragmenting, spend time with people and think about the actual society you live in - you can look at twitter, here, read the news etc and think that it's civil war out there. Then when you go outside you have a chat with your neighbours/the shopowner/guy that fixes your car, all of whom could have very different opinions to you about stuff but you're not constantly arguing about it because the reality is that in actual day to day society people aren't.
I'm not a psychiatrist by any stretch of the imagination but seems to me that it's sensible for everyone right now to avoid looking at the bigger picture "a vaccine will take X amount of time", "this will be here for X long" for example, just take it day by day, or what can I look forward to next. Bit by bit :thumbup:
Definitely. I've found that discussing things on here has been helpful previously, and completely non-judgemental (sometimes surprisingly given some of the personalities on here). Usually there is someone who has been through something similar, and if not there are plenty with empathy.Quote:
Originally Posted by SLUDGE FACTORY
Sometimes it's easier to talk to strangers than it is to family and friends.
A popular young man sadly took his own life in Merthyr on Sunday night. 22 years old.
With winter coming I really do fear there things are going to get worse.
It's obviously much worse for people who live alone. And it's going to get harder as the weather gets colder. I'm lucky to have my family around me and we've been able to have friends over to hang out in the garden all spring/summer. It must be hard to be stuck in alone, with little money, no means of transport etc. I can see how that could easily get on top of you.
Would anyone be interested if I set up a zoom meeting so that everyone could just chat shit and have a beer online?
If so I'd like it to be a non-judgemental safe space, so no politics and no religion (nowt controversial), where you can talk about what's going on in your life etc... Happy to arrange a regular meeting if useful.
I'd jump in mate. Don't drink but would partakeQuote:
Originally Posted by rs3100
Sorry to hear that. Hopefully this period will be over soon so try and focus on that. Watching the endless news scaremongering isn’t good, lots of oldies I know my mums age (70’s or 80’s) have stopped watching it. It’s just too much for them. I gave it a miss back in April and found life much easier. I dont think We have ever lived in a period of such mis information, it’s almost as if you can’t believe anything anyone says anymore. It’s not good for society as a whole, like Trump and his fake news philosophy.Quote:
Originally Posted by JamesWales
Working from home and missing that social interaction is an absolute killer for some, whereas others I know seem to love it.
Keep your chin up.....
Shocking to hear, it can’t be easy being that age at the moment with so many of the jobs that age group would do collapsing (bars, shops, cinema, restaurants, hotels etc)Quote:
Originally Posted by J R Hartley
It's been a tough year, following all the arguments and from Brexit. I have noticed that people are much more argumentative and vocal than previously, i've got a mate who is forever arguing on Twitter face book everything, and losing his shit over stuff that he has no control over. I think social media maybe adding to the problem, people stuck at home bored and arguing for the sake of it, so i don't think it generally helps?
People haven't become argumentative, I don't agree....see what I did there.Quote:
Originally Posted by Bluebina
You're right though, I've deleted all forms of social media, aside from LinkedIn and feel a million times better.
Arguing with Sludge has kept me busy in lockdown :hehe:Quote:
Originally Posted by Bluebina
Spot on about news scaremongering, Failsonline headline today telling us there's been 400plus new infections, but if you read a lot further down over a hundred don't even reside in Wales. Then you have Dripford and his daft sidekick talking about banning students going home for xmas and quarantining people entering Wales from England. What next Checkpoint Charlie on the M4 and Stasi patrolling Severn tunnel junction East Berlin cold war style? No wonder people are so depressed about the future.:frown:Quote:
Originally Posted by goats
Let's not turn this thread into one of those eh, there's plenty :thumbup:Quote:
Originally Posted by islandblue
Thats so sad, suicide is the leading cause of death for males under 45 , more than cancer , road accidents etcQuote:
Originally Posted by J R Hartley
Yet the funding put into mental health for men is next to nothing
Poor lad
too rightQuote:
Originally Posted by rs3100
Is heavy metal off the table ?
I have lost some battles but I will win the warQuote:
Originally Posted by J R Hartley
There was a cartoon in one of the papers where joke was about choosing to take a break from being well informed in order to stay sane. I wouldn't suggest switching off completely forever but definitely agree with taking a break.
Not on my watch :old:Quote:
Originally Posted by SLUDGE FACTORY
Aye , dads armyQuote:
Originally Posted by J R Hartley
Step aside , cardiff are in town
A bloke said that to me up in Bradford near the train station when he thought I was one of the ointment gang
I shit myself to be honest
Osmium and iridium?Quote:
Originally Posted by SLUDGE FACTORY
no French pleaseQuote:
Originally Posted by rs3100
Does (avoid conflict ) effect posting on here 🤔 👀Quote:
Originally Posted by SLUDGE FACTORY
It was probably the moustache, or maybe the flared trousers. Easily confused for a Yorkshireman.Quote:
Originally Posted by SLUDGE FACTORY
His best mate also committed suicide in the summer. It’s a worrying trend amongst younger people it seems, and I do think social media plays it’s part.Quote:
Originally Posted by SLUDGE FACTORY
Social media is relentless and obviously the main influencer in today's society. The younger generation are obviously more embroiled with whatever is on it and it exerts more pressure on individuals.
I know older lads who have lost their box due to stuff on facebook, someone who is vulnerable can be easily influenced in doing harm to themselves particularly if they're unwell.
The positive I suppose is that access to relevant services is easily available.
Undoubtedly. There's no escape, even if it's not bullying or negative news, people are surrounded by other people displaying (often) false depictions of their lives which can lead to people unfavourably comparing themselves to their peers when it's not a true comparison.Quote:
Originally Posted by J R Hartley
Glad it wasn't around when I was a teenager tbh
100%Quote:
Originally Posted by delmbox
This pursuit of perfection is extremely worrying. Social media has taken the old phrase "keeping up with the Joneses" to crazy levels.
dittoQuote:
Originally Posted by J R Hartley
People not being well informed is what they want. That's how you got Boris and Brexit. That's how we got Trump.Quote:
Originally Posted by surge
TerribleQuote:
Originally Posted by J R Hartley
There was a spate of suicides among the young in bridgend several years ago
Men under 45 are very vulnerable to suicide
I was dressed in a blue hoodieQuote:
Originally Posted by J R Hartley
Jeans
White trainers, ccfc pin badge
When I showed him that he said we are here to the business are you in ? I said I am just going to get some money out of the bank, see you later and then mingled in with the shoppers in boots
Hard-core
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