Has anyone on here ever felt down? I mean really down in a bad place? How do you get out of it?
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Has anyone on here ever felt down? I mean really down in a bad place? How do you get out of it?
Break the cycle.
https://www.webmd.com/depression/fea...ak-the-cycle#1
Seek help if you need it, counselling works wonders.
Talk to someone boss!
Don't resort to alcohol.
Have you got any close friends or family you can confide in?
I don’t drink, thankfully.
Marriage is falling apart, I feel very alone.
Seek help, don't be afraid to as a bloke, go see your GP, whatever you feel comfortable doing to get support
No matter how bleak things seem at the moment things will get better in time. It seems a cliché but it's true. And things are always seem worse at night. Hang on in there and talk to someone. And if you want to feel less isolated check out the Meetup website that includes social groups of all descriptions - and the best groups of all, in my humble opinion, are the walking groups. A combination of physical activity, socialising and enjoying the countryside is wonderfully therapeutic.
p.m. sent, rs3100
I Hesitated to comment as it's not easy , all I can say is take all the positives from the great posts above , as TBG says get out and about , I find walking , listening to music on headphones or a radio comedy podcasts very therapeutic, try some light reading such as escapism novels , like Lee Childs ,they can greatly help ,anything on TV that has a light escapism theme .
Good luck ,it can be and I'm sure will be a moment in you life you can get over .
Don’t keep it all bottled up mate try and find someone you can talk too there’s no shame in that, keep strong and you’ll eventually get there, there’s plenty on here you can pm :thumbup:
Hi fella, been there for a long time. I tried pills from the doc but I didn’t like how they made me feel. I resisted counselling for years, but when I finally gave in, it helped me a great deal. I strongly recommend giving it a go, there’s no judgement, but it’s also not a magic solution, It’s really surprising how talking can help you. DM if you need more info.
First step you have admitted it to a load of guys on a messageboard, next step, share your problems, what may be massive to you is straightforward to someone else . Good luck , don’t do anything stupid and there are loads of people out there who will help.
Listen to or watch the Joe Rogan podcast with Tyson Fury as the guest. He gives some heartfelt advice from a very personal perspective as a victim
Link below to the crux of it
https://youtu.be/XrM6WqYEj9Y
Been there. Marriage broke down. Was in a very very dark place for 6 months but you do eventually come through. That was 10 years ago. Now I'm in a far better place. Time definitely heals.
Good luck
My advice and it has helped mates of mine, is get talking, my ex-next-door-neighbour ( he has since moved to cornwall ) suffers alot, very unhappy bloke, we would often spend Friday afternoon in Starbucks / Costa having a chat, he has broken down and cried in front of me a fair few times
I have another mate who has been living in hotels since Nov as his wife all but kicked him out, she id suffering with " something " after having a baby , he says i listen and laugh at his woes, but it helps him
Now I wouldnt say i am a " sympathetic bloke " but I will listen and thats the main thing, i will chip in with a odd joke or bit of advice, it seems to work
so my advice, find someone to chat to, it might not be your closest friend or family member, it could just be someone who know from a random walk of life, but do find someone and do talk about it
https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/clinic...sion/symptoms/
There is loads of really good help and advice online so you are most definitely not alone, and will therefore find someone and something that will make you feel better.
Don’t worry.
Thanks everyone. I'm off to see the GP next week. A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step etc...
There are no quick fixes. Be strong. Be proactive. It will take time, but you'll get through it.
Been going through depression and anxiety for a while now myself, I can't offer any advice as it's not something I've really dealt with despite trying much.
I've always put off going to speak to the GP or counselling as I don't feel comfortable talking about these things face to face. However it's only getting worse and I shall be seeing the GP soon. A close friend has also recommended counselling and said it worked very well for her brother in law, just seems a bit American but maybe they have these things right.
Good luck with it.
Good luck mate, take your time and make sure you speak to someone about it.
Don't lose Hope mate. Plenty of good advice in this thread.
Well done mate. A friend of mine was suffering and we had no idea until he opened up to us all in a long text one day. Now he's got a support network he knows he can turn to any time day or night who'll listen or just keep him company. Don't bottle anything up, share pal :thumbup:
Counselling isn't for everyone, mate and being a bit sceptical of it is fine (I was)... but you won't know until you give it a chance. I've had depression for about 15 years and I'm only 32. It's a constant battle. I can go months without any issues but it will always creep up on me at some point when I'm not coping. I've been on medication loads of times and I've had counselling which I found useful, once I found the right counsellor (which is the most important thing).
If you're going to consider it, the NHS waiting list is approximately 4-6 months, so I'd recommend private counselling if you can afford it. The BACP website is the best place to look for a local one https://www.bacp.co.uk/search/Therapists?q=cardiff
Sadly there's no cure for feeling shite and it can be a long, hard battle to just try to live a 'normal' life. Only my friends and family would have any idea that I suffer with it as I'm good at hiding it (or so I think). I'm going back on medication myself next week having been off them for a year - sometimes it just helps to get through a rough patch.
As has been said numerous times in this thread so far, the best thing to do is talk about your problems. My biggest fault is that I sometimes bottle things up and feel ashamed of being depressed and that's when I'm at my worst.
If you or anyone else has any questions, feel free to PM me.
Oh yeah, I'm now studying to become a counsellor too haha.
Try www.stepiau.org click on the RED tab and access Self Help Leaflets
Local Cardiff & Vale website
GP can refer you to PMHSS for additional support
The OP firstly needs to see his GP. While I don't always agree with pill popping anti depressants can be very effective although they take a couple of weeks to have effect. Depression is a terrible thing and can play havoc with your mind so any help going should be seized on including counselling. Some great advice on here. Depression is very common and there is a lot of help out there.
Sorry mate! Didn’t read this before now. Some good advice there! There are no unanimous answer for what helpes one or the other. But one tend to feel alone struggling. Another myth, becouse life goes in cycles and we all struggle from time to time. My advice is, if you have experience going through tough times, you know what will make it better. And either if you do or you don’t, there are no shame sharing and seeking professional help. Sometimes all is needed is sorting out a few conflicting thoughts. Sometimes, or most times, it is feeling compassion. And sometimes it is feeling challenged. It’s all about feeling home, part of something, mastering something and resilience. If anything, read “antonovsky, Sence of coherence” But it is one of two choices. Either you know what to do, or get help sorting it out. And that is all it is. Sorting it out.
It’s all ****ed up, and no need feeling bad about it!
It’s all ****ed up and illogical. Don’t feel bad about it, just look for better ways!
You’ve got all the advice you need on here so I won’t add to it. I hope you are able to sort out your marital difficulties and even if you don’t life will continue and in time you will move on. My wife walked away back in 1991. I was devastated. I have been with my partner now for 23 years and am very happy being with her. It’s life. Both good and bad. Happy and sad.
All the best
I haven't got any advice for you sorry mate, I'd just like to wish you all the best.
Me too. My only advice is to do a bit of exercise if at all possible as it always picks me up. A long walk, gentle jog, a swim... Basically anything to get your heart rate up for a few mins regularly can make a real difference to your general wellbeing. I really wish you well-this board can be hugely supportive so please do take up people on their offers of help. All the best bluebird!
Sorry Ito hear of your problems, and sorry I can't help directly.
I've gone through a lot (stroke, broken bones, diabetes, arthritis, prostate cancer), but I've had my family to prop me up.
Please, listen to the advice given here, watch a few Billy Connoly vids to give temp relief, and DON'T DESPAIR.
Good luck mate.
My only advice is don't forget that stat which says that one in four people will suffer from a mental illness at some time in their life - that brings home the fact that, although you may feel alone, there are plenty of people around who have or are going through the same as you and it also means that there are plenty of people around who are qualified to help you through it.
Best of luck.