Unfriending on facebook

I have noticed that one of my former work colleagues had recently unfriended me. I thought I hadn’t seen any of her posts for a while and that’s why I then looked her up. I haven’t interacted with her that much but have done a few likes on her posts every now and then. The thing is I was thinking perhaps she is just weeding out friends but then I noticed every single person from my former work place is still on her friends list. It sounds funny but I feel abit strange about it all. There is no history nothing bad between me and her we were just work colleagues and got on well enough. I just don’t understand why me? I’m really not too bothered but Facebook is a funny place isn’t it!

In terms of my own posts mostly are positive - I’ve posted a couple about the effects that my illness has on me and people with the condition but nothing too depressing. Was it a mistake or did she just not like me?

It's not worth trying to decode people's online activity. There could be many reasons. I quite often unfriend people if we don't really have any online interaction. It's human nature to read the worst case scenario into things I guess but it's seldom correct.

PS stand by for posts telling you how pointless/awful/dangerous Facebook is 👍

Does she have young children? I know that as a father of young girls myself, I’ve had to be very ruthless with who I’m “friends with” on Facebook etc because occasionally I do want to share pictures or videos of them to show close friends and family how they’re doing and you just never know if that nice enough guy you used to work with is actually a wrong’un.

Don't take it to heart mate. Happens to everyone. Social media and the online world is a pretty unpleasant place and it's not making us happier, partly for reasons like you cite here.

Almost certainly though, she just wanted to tidy up her friends list a bit, often because we may be giving our personal information etc to people we don't know that we'll. It's highly unlikely you are the only person, and it's happened to us all.

Social media can let anxiety it. Close the door on its face when that comes knocking and say, No! Not today today thanks!

"We were just work colleagues" is your answer. Don't even consider it. I know that plenty of people rely on Facebook, but it isn't real, it's not personal, people are looking for attention, simply because they have a platform which encourages it and they can't resist. I know that it's personal preference, but as an Adult, i couldn't imagine myself giving a shit if a person didn't want to share pictures of their kids, holiday, new car or the proverbial 'Holding an alcoholic drink' for no apparent reason. In fact, i'd be pleased that they'd ****ed me off.

Thanks for all your replies. She did have a son who sadly passed away years ago and she also has another child. I think the thing is if she had taken the other former colleagues off than it wouldn’t have made me question it but I take your point - I really should t care that much as I’m not really in contact with her anymore. Facebook has been good for certain things but I do think the bad parts of it outweighs the good parts. It’s often full of trolls who like to jump on any reports etc whether negative or positive. I’ve had a few friends who have come off Facebook because it was affecting their mental health and I wonder whether I should take a break anyway. I think the most fascinating thing about Facebook is that it can connect you to people from your distant past. It has been great but that are so many negatives about it.

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Originally Posted by SuperBluebirds91

I have noticed that one of my former work colleagues had recently unfriended me. I thought I hadn’t seen any of her posts for a while and that’s why I then looked her up. I haven’t interacted with her that much but have done a few likes on her posts every now and then. The thing is I was thinking perhaps she is just weeding out friends but then I noticed every single person from my former work place is still on her friends list. It sounds funny but I feel abit strange about it all. There is no history nothing bad between me and her we were just work colleagues and got on well enough. I just don’t understand why me? I’m really not too bothered but Facebook is a funny place isn’t it!

In terms of my own posts mostly are positive - I’ve posted a couple about the effects that my illness has on me and people with the condition but nothing too depressing. Was it a mistake or did she just not like me?

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Work colleagues, you say? :hide:

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Originally Posted by Cardiff-Cal

Does she have young children? I know that as a father of young girls myself, I’ve had to be very ruthless with who I’m “friends with” on Facebook etc because occasionally I do want to share pictures or videos of them to show close friends and family how they’re doing and you just never know if that nice enough guy you used to work with is actually a wrong’un.

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you can set up " post audience " and share to a " Family and close friends " group ( and just have specific people in that group

I use Facebook as a online diary, I love having memories pop up from 10 years ago of things we have done, I posted " one for me " for a few months, but a few of our distant friends said they missed seeing what the girls were doing

What's "facebook" : :old: :hehe:

People going on holiday and posting photos of what they had to eat

The only people responding ? Their mothers

It's very odd

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Originally Posted by SLUDGE FACTORY

People going on holiday and posting photos of what they had to eat

The only people responding ? Their mothers

It's very odd

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All very odd. Not like you telling strangers all about your holidays to west wales and talking nonsense about fishing, enquiring if people live in flats, that’s not odd at all. Not to mention how much you dislike the Premier league. No, not in the least bit odd.

To the OP I think maybe you should cancel your Facebook account if you are that insecure. Your reaction is irrational to say the least.

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Originally Posted by Henry Hill

All very odd. Not like you telling strangers all about your holidays to west wales and talking nonsense about fishing, enquiring if people live in flats, that’s not odd at all. Not to mention how much you dislike the Premier league. No, not in the least bit odd.

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It's a selective audience on here you soppy tart

Facebook is a behemoth

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Originally Posted by SLUDGE FACTORY

It's a selective audience on here you soppy tart

Facebook is a behemoth

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I've never bothered with Facebook. What's the crack with it now, is it a middle aged thing, blokes in leathers and Motorbikes etc?

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Originally Posted by Tuerto

I've never bothered with Facebook. What's the crack with it now, is it a middle aged thing, blokes in leathers and Motorbikes etc?

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I believe the young uns are into Instagram etc these days

The worst ones are the community hubs that have taken over from the women's institute and the like

Some absolute fruit cakes on there

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Originally Posted by SLUDGE FACTORY

I believe the young uns are into Instagram etc these days

The worst ones are the community hubs that have taken over from the women's institute and the like

Some absolute fruit cakes on there

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twitter is ok for you metal . thrash and motley crews etc

people on there posting sabbath etc all bluddy day !

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Originally Posted by MOZZER2

twitter is ok for you metal . thrash and motley crews etc

people on there posting sabbath etc all bluddy day !

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I think a woman going on holiday to a quiet peaceful Greek island with her husband and having a pleasant meal is losing her mind if she then posts a photo of the meal and puts it on Facebook

And only her mother says that's lovely dear !

Absolutely mad and her 3000 mates clearly agree or they would be over it like a rash

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Originally Posted by SLUDGE FACTORY

I think a woman going on holiday to a quiet peaceful Greek island with her husband and having a pleasant meal is losing her mind if she then posts a photo of the meal and puts it on Facebook

And only her mother says that's lovely dear !

Absolutely mad and her 3000 mates clearly agree or they would be over it like a rash

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What i can't understand is people having this wonderful tool in front of them, they can communicate with people far and wide, learn things, Educate themselves, yet they Befriend Bob from down the road who they see in Spar three times a week and on two of those occasions they hide behind the Bread so that they don't have to strike up a conversation, yet spew their guts on Facebook. ****ing weird.

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Originally Posted by Tuerto

I've never bothered with Facebook. What's the crack with it now, is it a middle aged thing, blokes in leathers and Motorbikes etc?

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It’s had its day, if it wasn’t for the groups ( some ok football ones like lost grounds etc) on it or marketplace I’d have ditched it when I deleted about 250 people I barely ever knew 5 years ago….I guess some people might take offence at that but if I hadn’t seen or heard from them in over 10/20 years I guess I can live with out them. I’m sure people have deleted me too….it’s just the way

Rather predictably, the thread has veered away from the OP's point and turned into a Facebook bashing exercise.

I use Facebook to keep lightly in touch with friends I have around the world and although, no doubt, that my posts on there and here may bore and/or irritate those who read them, my pet hates on Facebook are posts that:

1. Show people"s Wordle efforts every day
2. Quoted mindless platitudes/maxims
3. People thanking their nearest and dearest for something when they are probably next to each other on the sofa
4. Show photos of comestibles about to be masticated

I know what people may find annoying about my pompous contributions, however :-)

I would worry about it.
It seems to bring the absolute worst out of people who are show offs, attention seekers and voyeurs. People go on holiday and put dozens of photos every day documenting their every move. People live stream a band they are watching instead of living in the moment and taking it all in. I know several people who have quite unhappy personal lives - relationship, debt etc but if you viewed them through their Facebook account you'd think they were living the dream. It should be called Fakebook.
I have an account which I use only for certain groups or when a band is playing but I never look at individual stuff. That's where you find out that bloke you haven't seen for 30 years but knew from school, is now a racist prick

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Originally Posted by Taunton Blue Genie

I use Facebook to keep lightly in touch with friends I have around the world and although, no doubt, that my posts on there and here may bore and/or irritate those who read them, my pet hates on Facebook are posts that:

1. Show people"s Wordle efforts every day
2. Quoted mindless platitudes/maxims
3. People thanking their nearest and dearest for something when they are probably next to each other on the sofa
4. Show photos of comestibles about to be masticated

I know what people may find annoying about my pompous contributions, however :-)

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Worldly quotes showing a solitary soul sitting on top of a mountain looking at the sunset are right up there for me too, particularly when I see the people who posted it who are the polar opposite of the kind and caring soul they profess to be….:hehe:
Also, rather than unfriending, not responding positively to a friend request is deemed far worse and is an excellent way in this modern world of just saying F off like we used to back in the day…..

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Originally Posted by Robin Friday's Ghost

Rather predictably, the thread has veered away from the OP's point and turned into a Facebook bashing exercise.

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No, it’s good for some stuff…..there are just plenty of weirdos out there like we all know. Most stuff is alright in small doses isn’t it

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Originally Posted by goats

No, it’s good for some stuff…..there are just plenty of weirdos out there like we all know. Most stuff is alright in small doses isn’t it

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Exactly. Use it how you like. Broadcast your every thought to the entire world, use it to keep informed about your favourite band's tour dates, arrange get togethers with friends and family. Or don't use it all at if you prefer and try to avoid telling everyone about your choice.

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Originally Posted by Robin Friday's Ghost

Exactly. Use it how you like. Broadcast your every thought to the entire world, use it to keep informed about your favourite band's tour dates, arrange get togethers with friends and family. Or don't use it all at if you prefer and try to avoid telling everyone about your choice.

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Bingo, it has a place in life, the Groups are very good for information, you can get as much out of it as you want, if you dont want to see Maggie biting into one of her freshly backed cupcakes, then just unfollow them ( so they will not show on your timeline ) they will not know you have unfollowed them ( so no offence )

when I made all my posts ( for my memories ) I was surprised the people who messaged me when I made them public again, even a dad of someone who my daughter met through dog training, lived 140 miles away, I had spoken to him few times at a camp we went to, but he missed seeing what my girls were upto, he even went to a England netball game in the copperbox as he had seen me posting about it being "end to end and exciting " so he thought he would check it out himself

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Originally Posted by Tuerto

What i can't understand is people having this wonderful tool in front of them, they can communicate with people far and wide, learn things, Educate themselves, yet they Befriend Bob from down the road who they see in Spar three times a week and on two of those occasions they hide behind the Bread so that they don't have to strike up a conversation, yet spew their guts on Facebook. ****ing weird.

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Football , music , community groups are ok

A woman posting photos of her 5 poodles that she has dressed up in ribbons ?

Barking mad

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Originally Posted by Taunton Blue Genie

I use Facebook to keep lightly in touch with friends I have around the world and although, no doubt, that my posts on there and here may bore and/or irritate those who read them, my pet hates on Facebook are posts that:

1. Show people"s Wordle efforts every day
2. Quoted mindless platitudes/maxims
3. People thanking their nearest and dearest for something when they are probably next to each other on the sofa
4. Show photos of comestibles about to be masticated

I know what people may find annoying about my pompous contributions, however :-)

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Have you never masticated your banana and posted a photo?

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Originally Posted by Harry Lime

I would worry about it.
It seems to bring the absolute worst out of people who are show offs, attention seekers and voyeurs. People go on holiday and put dozens of photos every day documenting their every move. People live stream a band they are watching instead of living in the moment and taking it all in. I know several people who have quite unhappy personal lives - relationship, debt etc but if you viewed them through their Facebook account you'd think they were living the dream. It should be called Fakebook.
I have an account which I use only for certain groups or when a band is playing but I never look at individual stuff. That's where you find out that bloke you haven't seen for 30 years but knew from school, is now a racist prick

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People in school who were massive racists and still are but pretend they are not

It would be funny if it wasn't so worrying

Probably because you posted content which triggered her memory to delete.

Don’t worry about it, if you passed them in the street would you even have said hello?

Not on it myself but my missus is. One regular, a friend of ours, has nigh on a couple of posts a week about long lost, relatives along the lines of, “Thinking of you today Auntie Lily on your anniversary, you died in 1938, although I never met you, you’re always in my thoughts “, a few days later, it’s Uncle Charlie, who was killed in the Boer War. I know it’s about someone passing away but it brightens my day:hehe:

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Originally Posted by splott parker

Not on it myself but my missus is. One regular, a friend of ours, has nigh on a couple of posts a week about long lost, relatives along the lines of, “Thinking of you today Auntie Lily on your anniversary, you died in 1938, although I never met you, you’re always in my thoughts “, a few days later, it’s Uncle Charlie, who was killed in the Boer War. I know it’s about someone passing away but it brightens my day:hehe:

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Attention seeking.

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Originally Posted by splott parker

Not on it myself but my missus is. One regular, a friend of ours, has nigh on a couple of posts a week about long lost, relatives along the lines of, “Thinking of you today Auntie Lily on your anniversary, you died in 1938, although I never met you, you’re always in my thoughts “, a few days later, it’s Uncle Charlie, who was killed in the Boer War. I know it’s about someone passing away but it brightens my day:hehe:

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its one of my pet annoyances when people wish dead people happy birthday on social media. How do you expect them to have a happy birthday when their dead ffs.:shrug:

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Originally Posted by splott parker

Not on it myself but my missus is. One regular, a friend of ours, has nigh on a couple of posts a week about long lost, relatives along the lines of, “Thinking of you today Auntie Lily on your anniversary, you died in 1938, although I never met you, you’re always in my thoughts “, a few days later, it’s Uncle Charlie, who was killed in the Boer War. I know it’s about someone passing away but it brightens my day:hehe:

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That's total cabbage isn't it ......died before I was born , never met you , miss you every day , always in my thoughts

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If people haven't kept in touch with you in real life, there's usually a reason for that.

People these days confusing posting on the internet with actual friendships and get butt hurt when someone gasp "unfriends" them. How very dare this person who has had nothing to do with me apart from work with me not want to share eery minutae of my life!

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Originally Posted by J R Hartley

its one of my pet annoyances when people wish dead people happy birthday on social media. How do you expect them to have a happy birthday when their dead ffs.:shrug:

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Or you don't even know em ff sake

Elvis , Lady Diana , Ian Paisley

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Originally Posted by bobh

What's "facebook" : :old: :hehe:

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Why the oldie emoji. Facebook is for old people.

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Originally Posted by Hilts

Why the oldie emoji. Facebook is for old people.

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What was the other one similar to fbook ?

I don't mean plentyoffish

I'm no longer on Facebook, but when I was I did unfriend a few people.
if there was someone I knew through work who was constantly posting stuff that I had no interest in then I'd definitely unfriend - nothing personal it's just about curating the site to be able to see the things I'm interested in without wading through the other stuff.

I'd unfriended someone who was always posting religious stuff and she didn't take it well, another couple were swamping my feed with their latest multi level marketing venture - they're gone.