I disagree it’s a selfish act, it’s a desperate and sad act taken by someone whose mental health is absolutely ****ed.
It’s terrible for the families but it isn’t an action taken with selfish motives.
These things should be discussed with suicidal people not called selfish. It’s things like that, that make mental health worse.
Sorry you’ve had to go through all that, I honestly thought you were on a wind up. I wouldn’t make light of something serious like that. Sorry!