Unfriending on facebook

[Guest]

I have noticed that one of my former work colleagues had recently unfriended me. I thought I hadn’t seen any of her posts for a while and that’s why I then looked her up. I haven’t interacted with her that much but have done a few likes on her posts every now and then. The thing is I was thinking perhaps she is just weeding out friends but then I noticed every single person from my former work place is still on her friends list. It sounds funny but I feel abit strange about it all. There is no history nothing bad between me and her we were just work colleagues and got on well enough. I just don’t understand why me? I’m really not too bothered but Facebook is a funny place isn’t it!

In terms of my own posts mostly are positive - I’ve posted a couple about the effects that my illness has on me and people with the condition but nothing too depressing. Was it a mistake or did she just not like me?

[Robin Friday's Ghost]

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It's not worth trying to decode people's online activity. There could be many reasons. I quite often unfriend people if we don't really have any online interaction. It's human nature to read the worst case scenario into things I guess but it's seldom correct.

[Robin Friday's Ghost]

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PS stand by for posts telling you how pointless/awful/dangerous Facebook is 👍

[Cardiff-Cal]

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Does she have young children? I know that as a father of young girls myself, I’ve had to be very ruthless with who I’m “friends with” on Facebook etc because occasionally I do want to share pictures or videos of them to show close friends and family how they’re doing and you just never know if that nice enough guy you used to work with is actually a wrong’un.

[JamesWales]

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Don't take it to heart mate. Happens to everyone. Social media and the online world is a pretty unpleasant place and it's not making us happier, partly for reasons like you cite here.

Almost certainly though, she just wanted to tidy up her friends list a bit, often because we may be giving our personal information etc to people we don't know that we'll. It's highly unlikely you are the only person, and it's happened to us all.

Social media can let anxiety it. Close the door on its face when that comes knocking and say, No! Not today today thanks!

[Tuerto]

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"We were just work colleagues" is your answer. Don't even consider it. I know that plenty of people rely on Facebook, but it isn't real, it's not personal, people are looking for attention, simply because they have a platform which encourages it and they can't resist. I know that it's personal preference, but as an Adult, i couldn't imagine myself giving a shit if a person didn't want to share pictures of their kids, holiday, new car or the proverbial 'Holding an alcoholic drink' for no apparent reason. In fact, i'd be pleased that they'd ****ed me off.

[SuperBluebirds91]

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Thanks for all your replies. She did have a son who sadly passed away years ago and she also has another child. I think the thing is if she had taken the other former colleagues off than it wouldn’t have made me question it but I take your point - I really should t care that much as I’m not really in contact with her anymore. Facebook has been good for certain things but I do think the bad parts of it outweighs the good parts. It’s often full of trolls who like to jump on any reports etc whether negative or positive. I’ve had a few friends who have come off Facebook because it was affecting their mental health and I wonder whether I should take a break anyway. I think the most fascinating thing about Facebook is that it can connect you to people from your distant past. It has been great but that are so many negatives about it.

[Taunton Blue Genie]

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I have noticed that one of my former work colleagues had recently unfriended me. I thought I hadn’t seen any of her posts for a while and that’s why I then looked her up. I haven’t interacted with her that much but have done a few likes on her posts every now and then. The thing is I was thinking perhaps she is just weeding out friends but then I noticed every single person from my former work place is still on her friends list. It sounds funny but I feel abit strange about it all. There is no history nothing bad between me and her we were just work colleagues and got on well enough. I just don’t understand why me? I’m really not too bothered but Facebook is a funny place isn’t it!

In terms of my own posts mostly are positive - I’ve posted a couple about the effects that my illness has on me and people with the condition but nothing too depressing. Was it a mistake or did she just not like me?

Work colleagues, you say?

[blue matt]

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Does she have young children? I know that as a father of young girls myself, I’ve had to be very ruthless with who I’m “friends with” on Facebook etc because occasionally I do want to share pictures or videos of them to show close friends and family how they’re doing and you just never know if that nice enough guy you used to work with is actually a wrong’un.

you can set up " post audience " and share to a " Family and close friends " group ( and just have specific people in that group

I use Facebook as a online diary, I love having memories pop up from 10 years ago of things we have done, I posted " one for me " for a few months, but a few of our distant friends said they missed seeing what the girls were doing

[bobh]

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What's "facebook" :

[SLUDGE FACTORY]

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People going on holiday and posting photos of what they had to eat

The only people responding ? Their mothers

It's very odd

[Henry Hill]

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People going on holiday and posting photos of what they had to eat

The only people responding ? Their mothers

It's very odd

All very odd. Not like you telling strangers all about your holidays to west wales and talking nonsense about fishing, enquiring if people live in flats, that’s not odd at all. Not to mention how much you dislike the Premier league. No, not in the least bit odd.

[Henry Hill]

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To the OP I think maybe you should cancel your Facebook account if you are that insecure. Your reaction is irrational to say the least.

[SLUDGE FACTORY]

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All very odd. Not like you telling strangers all about your holidays to west wales and talking nonsense about fishing, enquiring if people live in flats, that’s not odd at all. Not to mention how much you dislike the Premier league. No, not in the least bit odd.

It's a selective audience on here you soppy tart

Facebook is a behemoth

[Tuerto]

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It's a selective audience on here you soppy tart

Facebook is a behemoth

I've never bothered with Facebook. What's the crack with it now, is it a middle aged thing, blokes in leathers and Motorbikes etc?