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I resolved the not taking rubbish dirty plates to the bin/sink by taking what was left and putting it in the culprits room. It worked
My advice is to do nothing and just wait it out. The girl will be going through her own peculiar hell at the moment of not knowing who she is or what she wants, plus the pressure of crucial exams, an uncertain world of work/University and the insecurity of already having one parent leave her.
For the longer term sake of your relationship with her and her Mum, you just need to let it go until she moves out. Only then will she realise what you've both been doing for her and at that point you can start to discuss things like adults.
I'd make sure that you and your partner spend quality time together at least once a week where the girl is not present if you can - and DON'T talk about the daughter during this time.
Smash her back doors in. Tell your wife about it, specifically when you're having sex.
There's no explanation on what the kids have been through.
Poor me, poor me.
You aren't the most important person in this relationship.
If you're coming to a football forum looking for advice, I'd say it says more about you than her.
Yep , just let it go ,stop trying , if its a relationship via a divorce /breakdown your the easiest target .
There are the exceptions i'm sure ,but deep down its not the same relationship , and beware in some cases they can carry long term bitterness , they find it easier to adversely effect you , rather than the mum whose decision or action have resulted in a this position ,in a lot of cases you come into it innocently after the divorce .
I just treat them with a light support , not nasty , never over please ,as you will only get exploited and never win .
hey there's a 46% divorce rate you not on your own,my old boss always said take the moral high ground ,dont lash out , in the end you will win , good luck .
Why am I winding him up?
Perhaps if he sat down with her, instead of discussing the family's business on a football forum he'd get somewhere.
He looks for advice, we all have to put an arm around him and have a group hug?
Sit down with your wife and her daughter, discuss this properly.
If not, take a walk.
I have a step daughter, her dad ditched my wife during pregnancy.
I came into their lives when she was 11, she comes to me for advice, money and just a general chat. One of the proudest days of my life was when she started calling me dad.
The teenage years are awkward ones, and I wonder whether she is resentful towards you, or if she is just a "me me me" type of kid. There's plenty of those around, and there are plenty who are just as rude to their "blood" parents. As you say your step daughter is rude to her mother. If I were in your position, I would just try to stay out of it. Easier said than done, but I assume you have already tried talking to her, tried being nice to her, maybe even spoiling her. If what you say is right, then maybe you have done all you can? Just keep doing the right thing, and hopefully it will all pass. Good luck!
Lots of sense here. When the girl goes through her "apologetic" stage, is it all quickly forgiven and forgotten about? If so, then it seems like your step-daughter is being abusive. I mean, if you were doing that to your spouse (for example) then your friends would no doubt say you were in an abusive relationship.
This thread, like the House of Fraser one, is shite more suited to Mumsnet: https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk
This forum should be dedicated to football and football related violence only, and I am unanimous in that!
Let's have threads where we can reminisce about events from yesteryear when we put the boot in. I want to read nostalgic anecdotes concerning fractured skulls, broken ribs, drunkenness, terrified scarfers and other incidents of public disorder. I don't wish to peruse any more cobblers about getting sentimental over buying a purse for one's nan in a department store thirty fecking years ago or family feuds involving uppity step sprogs.