O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

[Elwood Blues]

Re: O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

Some fantastic advice given to you here by fellow bluebirds

Your wife is clearly suffering from either a dementia type illness such as vascular dementia , my mother has this ......or she has alzheimers , a form of dementia ........she could possibly have delirium.......or she has recurring urine infections

You are clearly under a great deal of stress and your wife needs to be seen by an experienced mental health professional

She is a danger to herself and to you

Phone the Llanfair unit at Llandough hospital in Cardiff if you are in Cardiff and the Vale of Glamorgan

These people are the experts in elderly mental health . They are headed by a team of psychiatrists who will send out a team of nurses to assess your wife , report back to the doctors and a diagnosis will be formed and a treatment plan made which may include medication and a ct scan to see if your wife has dementia

Phone them NOW

They will advise you . A referral usually has to come from a GP but sometimes they act very quickly if you contact them yourself. You must say you are frightened , anxious , depressed and are having very frightening thoughts . This is beyond the help of a GP .

My mother was seen by the older person's mental health team last March and was given a diagnosis of severe anxiety , delirium and vascular dementia .

Phone them now , I will find the number for you

Listen to Sludge. He is very knowledgeable in this sort of area and has given me good advice (in the case of physical disability rather than mental health, but the advice still holds) in the past

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Re: O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

There's clearly people much more knowledgable than me replying so I haven't got much to add other than to second reach out to professionals and don't downplay to them how serious the problem is for yourself or your wife, and make sure you get the help you need for your mental health as well. You can't be expected to help her when you're clearly struggling yourself.

All the best to you mate, feel free to PM any time

[Mad as a fish]

Re: O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

Sludge. Thanks my friend, I live in the Abergavenny area. (Lifelong Fisherman as well)

[Mad as a fish]

Re: O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

Sorry to hear this mate, the advice already provided seems a good start and hope you work your way through it.

On a side note, when we are allowed back in the stadium, let me know if you would ever like to go to a game, I can pick you up and it might be nice to get out the house for a bit and watch some live football

Chris, What a lovely offer, Wife and I were Season ticket holders for 10 years until My hip ops. I would love to take you up on your offer sometime when things get better. Thanks again my friend.

[goats]

Re: O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

Yes, this is very excellent and important advice. You must see your GP and you must insist on getting a social worker for yourself too.

This.....all the way

[SLUDGE FACTORY]

Re: O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

That's a lovely gesture! There are still plenty of good people in this world.

Thats amazing 👏

[SLUDGE FACTORY]

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Sludge. Thanks my friend, I live in the Abergavenny area. (Lifelong Fisherman as well)

Great fishing in the canal

Whats the health board ?

Are your services still based at neville Hall or have they moved to cwmbran ?

[SLUDGE FACTORY]

Re: O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

Great fishing in the canal

Whats the health board ?

Are your services still based at neville Hall or have they moved to cwmbran ?

Older Adults Mental Health Duty Desk

Maindiff Court

01873 735513

Tell them how unwell your wife is and how unwell you feel

Don't let them fobb you off to your GP

If they say you need a referral from the GP phone the GP and tell them if he or she won't do it , you will

Good luck bluebird

[Mad as a fish]

Re: O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

Great fishing in the canal

Whats the health board ?

Are your services still based at neville Hall or have they moved to cwmbran ?

Nevill hall I imagine sludge.

[SLUDGE FACTORY]

Re: O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

Nevill hall I imagine sludge.

Maindiff Court is what you want

Psychiatric emergency duty desk for older people

01873 735513

Open 9 to 5

They will help you bluebird

[the other bob wilson]

Re: O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

Some great responses in this thread - well done to all concerned.

[Toadstool]

Re: O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

I’m working at POBL at the moment - there may be someone there who can help - they certainly cover the Gwent area - let me know if you want me to contact someone on your behalf - pm me some details.
Dave

[Mad as a fish]

Re: O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

I’m working at POBL at the moment - there may be someone there who can help - they certainly cover the Gwent area - let me know if you want me to contact someone on your behalf - pm me some details.
Dave

Dave , thanks very much indeed my friend. I would be very grateful indeed. Im quite happy for you to send my message if you think it would help.

[SLUDGE FACTORY]

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Dave , thanks very much indeed my friend. I would be very grateful indeed. Im quite happy for you to send my message if you think it would help.

Pobl are a housing association who also do fantastic advice work in the community .

If you are at your wits end then you really do need to get your wife assessed and your own needs addressed as soon as possible

Your wife needs a psychiatric assessment , wether she wants one or not . I know this is tough but the mental health professionals need to be contacted soon as you can

Pobl , Samaritans , Age Cymru , Dementia UK, Alzheimers Society , Citizens Advice , all great but you don't know what you are dealing with as yet .......it could be alzheimers, dementia , delirium due to urine infections , prolonged delirium .....a very serious condition .....old age psychosis etc

I would urge you to contact the older persons mental health team and get your wife assessed then treated

After that .......all the various support groups can help you

Its no good phoning up the Citizens Advice Bureau as they will urge you to contact the medical people but for getting attendance allowance as you care for your wife , citizens advice and pobl and other support agencies will help you all the way

But get the medical experts involved first Mr fish 🐟 😉

[Pearcey3]

Re: O/T BIT OF A LONG SHOT, AM DESPERATELY IN NEED OF SOME ADVICE

All the best Mad As Fish. As always this board is as it’s best for stuff like this.