That sounds like hell. I did the first bit, a wife and kids, but did my best to stay away from the other stuff. Getting all cosy with the parents up the school. F uck that.
Never get friendly with your kids mates parents, golden rule. It can go badly wrong and your stuck with them for a good few years… never quite got that anyway, don’t these people have any mates? Are they relying on their kids to find any?