Don't do as I do, do as I say.

[Hilts]

Correct me if I'm wrong but the way the article read to me as that Mrs Cummings and son were already in Durham and he drove there to be with them. She says, 'would have to come home' like my Mrs used to say 'when are you coming home' when I worked away.
He drove to Durham to care for her I understood, which most men would tend to do for their wife.
Whether that was right or wrong is another matter.

Yes your wrong. Read the 1st sentence.