Parents

[dembethewarrior]

Why are so many of them so ****ing shit?

I do absolutely everything I can to ensure mine gets brought up in a happy environment, she's comfortable talking to me up here and her mum and dad down there...we all do everything that we can to ensure she is given the best possible chance in life.

And being honest, it's not really that hard to do. Nobody deserves a reward for looking after their own kids, if you bring them up right it can be really ****ing easy as they tend to work with you as they get older and can see you've got their best interest at heart, so why do so many people fail so badly at this?

I'm not talking about difficult kids, you get them, I'm on about the people that can't be arsed to parent. Rather get in from work and watch 5 hours of TV after work and spend their money on fags and booze, never help with homework and just palm the kids off on their consoles and tablets.

What's all that about?

[Eric the Half a Bee]

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just palm the kids off on their consoles and tablets

Pretty sure that's illegal.

[dembethewarrior]

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Pretty sure that's illegal.

Bang goes the thread.

No thoughts on it?

[bobh]

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Why are so many of them so ****ing shit?

I do absolutely everything I can to ensure mine gets brought up in a happy environment, she's comfortable talking to me up here and her mum and dad down there...we all do everything that we can to ensure she is given the best possible chance in life.

And being honest, it's not really that hard to do. Nobody deserves a reward for looking after their own kids, if you bring them up right it can be really ****ing easy as they tend to work with you as they get older and can see you've got their best interest at heart, so why do so many people fail so badly at this?

I'm not talking about difficult kids, you get them, I'm on about the people that can't be arsed to parent. Rather get in from work and watch 5 hours of TV after work and spend their money on fags and booze, never help with homework and just palm the kids off on their consoles and tablets.

What's all that about?

I totally agree.
My 4 are adults now and all are "kids" to be proud of - and my 2 grandsons look like turning out well, too.
But my mrs works in a school, and she says many of the parents just don't seem to care - resulting in some little horrors running riot during the day.

[Eric the Half a Bee]

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Bang goes the thread.

No thoughts on it?

Yes. There are lazy parents of course but the whole post smacked of you being holier than thou.

[Des Parrot]

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This thread could go anyway. I’ve got 4 boys, now between 24 & 38 and I’d change lots of things now I’m decades older. For sure we could have done many things better. One person’s perfect parent is different to another.

[Rjk]

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everyone's idea of good parenting is different though, some people slog their guts out to earn more so they can spend a fortune they don't have on ridiculous Christmas gifts like PS5 etc anything to make the kids happy
and they do everything for their kids, cooking cleaning helping with homework etc
my partner is Chinese - and to her that would be extremely bad parenting, her kid is expected to clean up after himself and make himself breakfast, needs to manage his own homework and make sure it is all completed and if she thinks it's not done to a high enough standard she'd make him do it again, or if he hasn't got "enough" homework she will buy some more exercise books for him to study.
if he does something wrong then she's super strict on him.
the worst thing you can do as a Chinese parent is to be too soft on your kids, it's easier for you in the short term but it doesn't benefit the kid in the long term

[dembethewarrior]

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Yes. There are lazy parents of course but the whole post smacked of you being holier than thou.

Why?

[dembethewarrior]

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I totally agree.
My 4 are adults now and all are "kids" to be proud of - and my 2 grandsons look like turning out well, too.
But my mrs works in a school, and she says many of the parents just don't seem to care - resulting in some little horrors running riot during the day.

You've only got to walk about your community to see them..

I just think giving your kids a steady environment and giving them encouragement etc is so easy to do.

Rjk, I know what you mean, but not really what I was getting at tbh 👍

[dembethewarrior]

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Why?

Come on the ln Eric, what were you insinuating here?

[Maurice Swan]

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everyone's idea of good parenting is different though, some people slog their guts out to earn more so they can spend a fortune they don't have on ridiculous Christmas gifts like PS5 etc anything to make the kids happy
and they do everything for their kids, cooking cleaning helping with homework etc
my partner is Chinese - and to her that would be extremely bad parenting, her kid is expected to clean up after himself and make himself breakfast, needs to manage his own homework and make sure it is all completed and if she thinks it's not done to a high enough standard she'd make him do it again, or if he hasn't got "enough" homework she will buy some more exercise books for him to study.
if he does something wrong then she's super strict on him.
the worst thing you can do as a Chinese parent is to be too soft on your kids, it's easier for you in the short term but it doesn't benefit the kid in the long term

My wife is Thai and is the same(!) Maybe it's a culture thing. Despite my longevity my two boys of ten and four are being brought up to be polite and to appreciate the value of things......and the elder to clear away, make his bed properly etc. They don't want for anything but do not over-indulge them. Sadly (but also perhaps a blessing...) my eldest shows no signs of enthusiasm for CCFC (or any other team come to that...

[RichardM]

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This thread could go anyway. I’ve got 4 boys, now between 24 & 38 and I’d change lots of things now I’m decades older. For sure we could have done many things better. One person’s perfect parent is different to another.

Do you find the way you brought them up changed with the younger ones?
I have three, similar ages to yours. Looking back we didn't really know what we were doing with the first, kind of learning as we went along. By the time e had the third we had got the hang of it.

[insider]

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This is one of the biggest give yourself a pat on the back threads I've ever read.

[dembethewarrior]

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This is one of the biggest give yourself a pat on the back threads I've ever read.

I didn't even have to read your post once I saw your name to know it was going to be negative 👍

[Heathblue]

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Why are so many of them so ****ing shit?

I do absolutely everything I can to ensure mine gets brought up in a happy environment, she's comfortable talking to me up here and her mum and dad down there...we all do everything that we can to ensure she is given the best possible chance in life.

And being honest, it's not really that hard to do. Nobody deserves a reward for looking after their own kids, if you bring them up right it can be really ****ing easy as they tend to work with you as they get older and can see you've got their best interest at heart, so why do so many people fail so badly at this?

I'm not talking about difficult kids, you get them, I'm on about the people that can't be arsed to parent. Rather get in from work and watch 5 hours of TV after work and spend their money on fags and booze, never help with homework and just palm the kids off on their consoles and tablets.

What's all that about?

I have two, 30 & 40 respectively and couldn't be any prouder of the pair of them. Working away for periods when they they born, very young, their mother is the one who steered them into who they are, I'll duck the nub of your point, there are so many reasons IMO why some parenting isn't what it could be but the only reason I'd put my opinion to, is that the nuclear family has been deliberately destroyed. (It's political and I'm not going there).