David James.

[Rock_Flock_of_Five]

Re: David James.

I went to a funeral earlier in the week, I hadn’t seen most people there for more than 20 years. I knew almost all the faces but none of the names. There were some amusing conversations as a bunch of pensioners tried to remember each others names.

I don't think there's any shame in not remembering names from 20 years ago.
In such circumstances, I greet them by extending my hand towards them, pointing my index finger, and raising my eyebrows in the hope to elicit their name.
My wife gets a bit pissed off when I do this whenever I'm at her family gatherings! :hehe:

[splott parker]

Re: David James.

My wife gets a bit pissed off when I do this whenever I'm at her family gatherings! :hehe:

How’d she react when you forget her name?

[Rock_Flock_of_Five]

Re: David James.

How’d she react when you forget her name?

That only sometimes happens when I stagger home on Christmas day, New Year's day, and Chinese New Year's day. :hehe:

[Tuerto]

Re: David James.

I don't think there's any shame in not remembering names from 20 years ago.
In such circumstances, I greet them by extending my hand towards them, pointing my index finger, and raising my eyebrows in the hope to elicit their name.
My wife gets a bit pissed off when I do this whenever I'm at her family gatherings! :hehe:

I go one better, i don't go to family gatherings, bloody awful occasions.

[Rock_Flock_of_Five]

Re: David James.

I go one better, i don't go to family gatherings, bloody awful occasions.

Indeed.
Spare me some sympathy that I'm always sat on a 'men's only table' for family gathering dinners.
All of them are chain-smokers, they all drink báijiǔ (super strong Chinese alcohol), and none of them can speak a word of English (my spoken Chinese is poor).
I usually find myself staring at the floor or looking at ccmb.co.uk on my phone. :hehe:

[NYCBlue]

Re: David James.

I think the first time I heard ‘mate’ in common conversation in Cardiff was around the early nineties and I wouldn’t be surprised if it found its way into the local dialect via English students that study and live there.

No doubt the same tosspots that call Caroline Street ‘Chippy Alley’!

Interloping bastards!

I'm from Barry and I and my friends have used "mate" for as long as I can remember. I call my best mate "mate" more often than I use his name. "mate of", mates with" "alright mate?" It's just common language around, Barry, Cardiff etc.

[NYCBlue]

Re: David James.

Is it OK to say "cheers drive"? I still say that to Uber and yellow cab drivers.

[Rock_Flock_of_Five]

Re: David James.

Is it OK to say "cheers drive"? I still say that to Uber and yellow cab drivers.

Yes.

[Tuerto]

Re: David James.

Indeed.
Spare me some sympathy that I'm always sat on a 'men's only table' for family gathering dinners.
All of them are chain-smokers, they all drink báijiǔ (super strong Chinese alcohol), and none of them can speak a word of English (my spoken Chinese is poor).
I usually find myself staring at the floor or looking at ccmb.co.uk on my phone. :hehe:

I can't do them, they bore me to death. Full of old pissheads harping on about their youth, ****ing Elvis, Tom Jones etc, they all think that they're entertaining and funny once they've had a drink, and at least one female starts crying around 11pm. Thankfully they're starting to drop off now.......

[Tuerto]

Re: David James.

Is it OK to say "cheers drive"? I still say that to Uber and yellow cab drivers.

Absolutely, that should be in big capital letters as you enter the City of Cardiff. Never mind the coat of Arms and all that Nonsense.

[J R Hartley]

Re: David James.

Jesus I use mate on pretty much everybody, genuinely had no idea some people don't like it :getscoat:

Don’t be put off by a few cantankerous old men on this message board. It’s a term of endearment and used to be friendly. Don’t see the problem with it unless someone using it in a really over the top style or patronising.

Mate, buddy, butty, butt, fella, I use them all depending on the person. Age and where they are from are 2 categories I would normally assess before choosing which one to use.

Haven’t heard the word “son” used in this thread yet, maybe that’s a Merthyr thing. Pronounced “Alright Saan”. Followed by “Whas happening”.

Alright Muk is another - short for mukker (mate)

[MacAdder]

Re: David James.

Don’t be put off by a few cantankerous old men on this message board. It’s a term of endearment and used to be friendly. Don’t see the problem with it unless someone using it in a really over the top style or patronising.

Mate, buddy, butty, butt, fella, I use them all depending on the person. Age and where they are from are 2 categories I would normally assess before choosing which one to use.

Haven’t heard the word “son” used in this thread yet, maybe that’s a Merthyr thing. Pronounced “Alright Saan”. Followed by “Whas happening”.

Alright Muk is another - short for mukker (mate)

Well said dude.

[Taunton Blue Genie]

Re: David James.

I love the old vernacular version of 'mate' in deepest Somerset e.g. 'mucker' (and with a rolled 'r') and the longer form, 'me old mucker'.
I love 'Look at ee' (which can also mean look at it), the use of the word 'dimpsey' for twilight
'In the first football match I ever played in down here, our team captain looked at his damaged boot after the game and declared that 'Ee be buggered' (with the rhotic 'r' included, of course).

P S. The word 'daps' is also used in Somerset (and originates from Gloucester, I believe).

[Rock_Flock_of_Five]

Re: David James.

I love the old vernacular version of 'mate' in deepest Somerset e.g. 'mucker' (and with a rolled 'r') and the longer form, 'me old mucker'.
I love 'Look at ee' (which can also mean look at it), the use of the word 'dimpsey' for twilight
'In the first football match I ever played in down here, our team captain looked at his damaged boot after the game and declared that 'Ee be buggered' (with the rhotic 'r' included, of course).

P S. The word 'daps' is also used in Somerset (and originates from Gloucester, I believe).

Do they use the term of endearment 'babber' down Somerset way, or is it confined to the Bristol area only?

[Taunton Blue Genie]

Re: David James.

Do they use the term of endearment 'babber' down Somerset way, or is it confined to the Bristol area only?

I have never heard it in my years living in Taunton, Chard and Bridgwater and various village in this vicinity. In fact, I have never heard it in conversation anywhere. It may therefore be Bristolian or from that neck of the woods.

For those who speak some German, it may be of interest the use of the word 'bist' can be heard (and in the same context as in German) in the Bristol area amongs the rural oldies, I understand.