I'm not going to counter what you say really, i'm aware of most of what you say as i was brought up with a religious mother ( she passed away last Monday and i'm now in the process of arranging a requiem mass for her and all that goes with it) My Father was brought up even more hard lined than my Mother, he could recite a requiem mass in Latin, Bit he denounced it all in his early twenties, got involved with The International Socialists (Later The Socialist Workers Party, became a prominent member Of The ANL, A Trade Unionist and Sat on the Council of The 'Respect Party' oddly enough, my mother was a huge part of those groups as well, although her Faith stayed close to her and there were some very interesting conversations to had at my house
My point is that The 'Establishment' can only do so much damage, most parents don't really believe all of that stuff, even the kids find it fanciful these days, and i can honestly say that i never had it rammed down my throat, was allowed to make my own decisions on faith and participation in it, and never once felt forced or indoctrinated as you put it. I don't believe in it, and i see the wrong it creates, but i'm not unique, there's millions of people like me who weren't brainwashed just because our parent or parents decided to det us Baptised or Christened. I'm sure though that in less developed countries where the church and the state play a more significant role, that people are controlled by religion..