David James.

[the other bob wilson]

Just gone up in my opinion after he had a bit of a rant on Radio 5 about people who call any male they talk to "mate" - can't explain why and I suppose it says more about me than the person calling me his mate, but it's always made my hackles rise.

[GL1Blue]

Re: David James.

Just gone up in my opinion after he had a bit of a rant on Radio 5 about people who call any male they talk to "mate" - can't explain why and I suppose it says more about me than the person calling me his mate, but it's always made my hackles rise.

Cheers for the heads up, I'll listen back on BBC sounds, thanks again mate

[MacAdder]

Re: David James.

Cheers for the heads up, I'll listen back on BBC sounds, thanks again mate

:hehe:

[North Cardiff Blue]

Re: David James.

Just gone up in my opinion after he had a bit of a rant on Radio 5 about people who call any male they talk to "mate" - can't explain why and I suppose it says more about me than the person calling me his mate, but it's always made my hackles rise.

It's better than Bro, or Fella!

[MacAdder]

Re: David James.

It's better than Bro, or Fella!

Agreed. How about butt?

As long as people are not being offensive I don't see the problem really.

[Rock_Flock_of_Five]

Re: David James.

Total stranger behind you whilst you're waiting to get served at the bar...

"Can I get in there, mate"?

They're usually already pushing past you while asking the question.
There's often an understated threat about them—they're not friendly-looking, and they're not your 'mate'.

[splott parker]

Re: David James.

It's better than Bro, or Fella!

Or bra…..when someone says ‘safe, bra’, I ask them is that something that’s tits don’t fall out of accidently.

[WJ99mobile]

Re: David James.

I find it can sound quite rude and abrupt if a moniker like mate isn’t used.

Maybe I’m just common, but I don’t find it offensive, like when a woman calls me love or dear.

[Trigger]

Re: David James.

Yesterday I went down a YouTube rabbit hole and was watching one of these auditors. He was near a police station so the police came over, officer every other sentence was calling this guy mate. The auditor one time says something like "but my friend I wasn't" and the officer snaps I'm not your friend.

True story.

[jon1959]

Re: David James.

I find it can sound quite rude and abrupt if a moniker like mate isn’t used.

Maybe I’m just common, but I don’t find it offensive, like when a woman calls me love or dear.

In Sheffield (less so in Rotherham or Barnsley) the word 'love' is still used by men and women to men and women without any baggage - sexual or otherwise - although it is now less common than when I moved here in the early 1980s. It is just a friendly expression - and never used in an aggressive or hostile way.

I was working on the buses and was called 'love' hundreds of times a day - by men, by women and once by a dog!

https://www.thestar.co.uk/heritage-a...who%20we%20are!

[MacAdder]

Re: David James.

In Sheffield (less so in Rotherham or Barnsley) the word 'love' is still used by men and women to men and women without any baggage - sexual or otherwise - although it is now less common than when I moved here in the early 1980s. It is just a friendly expression - and never used in an aggressive or hostile way.

I was working on the buses and was called 'love' hundreds of times a day - by men, by women and once by a dog!

https://www.thestar.co.uk/heritage-a...who%20we%20are!

I've been "caught" using the word "love" and was left feeling like I'd molested someone!

The human mind is quite capable of recognising whether somebody is being rude or offensive so what does it matter what the moniker :shrug:

[ToTaL ITK]

Re: David James.

Aight bruv!

[Tuerto]

Re: David James.

I use the phrases, Comrade, Brother of Sister. I like to keep it formal.

[Jordi Culé]

Re: David James.

Agreed. How about butt?

As long as people are not being offensive I don't see the problem really.

Hmmmm...

*strokes chin*

[Divine Wright]

Re: David James.

It always struck me how much more prevalent the use of "mate" was in Cardiff when I first moved there compared to everywhere else in south Wales. It's definitely a Cardiff thing.

When I lived in the valleys "butt" was obviously the go-to. I think "mush" probably starts off at the western fringes of the valleys and extends to Carmarthen-ish. West Wales is mostly "boy"......from my observation.

I don't like "mate" ..... especially when said by a hard-faced cardiffian ..... I mean, you get used to it and I think I use it now that I don't even live in Wales more than ever....... sometimes to my partner when I'm exasperated or frustrated .........and she hates it too.